You Blocked Them…Then What?

2 min

There’s a strange relief that comes with blocking someone.
One click, and it’s like they no longer exist. No new messages. No profile photo. No digital trace. Just a blank space where connection used to live.

But is that peace—or just silence?
Is that healing—or just escape?

I’ve been sitting with this question since a recent energy healing session, where the practitioner intuitively sensed imbalance in a part of my body. As we unpacked it, I shared how I’d recently gone no-contact with someone.

That’s when she said something that landed hard:
“Blocking is a band-aid. It’s not the same as processing.”

And for many reasons, I haven’t stopped thinking about it.

Because in many ways, blocking feels final. It gives the illusion of a door shut tight. But if just seeing their name still stirs something—discomfort, resentment, sadness—then maybe the door isn’t actually shut. Maybe it’s just locked. And what’s pacing inside isn’t them… it’s your own unprocessed feelings.

To be clear: there are absolutely times when blocking is necessary. For safety. For sanity. Sometimes even to reclaim a sense of power after feeling small or hurt.
And sometimes, that block is the first boundary we’ve ever set. That’s valid, too.

But I’m learning there’s a difference between protecting yourself from someone and avoiding the work of detaching from what still lives inside you. Between cutting contact and cutting ties with the story you’ve been carrying.

We live in a world where disconnection is instant.
Where “block” is a button, and “closure” feels like a choice.
But emotional residue doesn’t disappear just because a number does.

Closure—real closure—isn’t something someone gives us.
It’s something we slowly shape within ourselves.

Prompt:
Is there someone you’ve cut off—but still feel energetically tied to?
What would it look like to start releasing that tie—not through contact, but through awareness?

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